The first sexual contact is very important. Especially for a girl. For her everything is more complicated both psychologically and physiologically. But if you have already made up your mind… You don’t have to take that step under the pressure of others: “Oh, everybody’s already, and I’m still…” Think hard about what your relationship with this person is. And don’t be in a hurry. “There you go again…” you say disappointedly. No, my dear, that’s not what I mean. It’s better for both of you to wait until you have enough time to devote to each other.
First sexual experience
It’s best to set yourself up for a little patience right away. There will be no “heaven in diamonds” right away. It might be a little painful right away (because of the defloration). There will be a certain tension. It will be easier to overcome if we are sensitive and considerate to each other. If there are some difficulties, don’t panic. Try not to be afraid.
There is a golden rule: the greatest success in sex is achieved when you do not concentrate all your attention on the very process of its implementation.
Most likely, this very first time you won’t feel an orgasm. So there might be some disappointment: “That’s it? What about…?” It will come in time. It is not for nothing they say that feelings awaken. And so in the case of sexuality.
The subtleties of love
You will gradually learn the subtleties of love. Of course, the active part should be up to the man. At the same time, your role is to receive and give pleasure. First, knowing what you like, “set” yourself to orgasm. After all, only a woman knows with all certainty what brings her closer to her desired goal. Either do it yourself, or let your partner know what you want. Do not wait until you “do it all. You may end up earning an unflattering opinion of yourself as a frigid woman. An overwhelming number of such women are to blame for this themselves. So, secondly, always remember that an affectionate woman makes her partner and herself happy. A woman experiences a strong and very strong arousal when she touches her partner during intimacy. Stimulating him becomes a sexual stimulus for her as well. Active recoil is very much appreciated.
In love, one must not only receive, but also give.
Of course, the best thing is mutual love, when people give themselves to each other completely. Such love gives birth to a feeling of infinite happiness. And we must try not to spoil the experience. It is wrong to think that men are rude creatures. They also very much want everything to be beautiful. Even if not in Hawaii or in a five-star hotel.
How not to ruin it with one word?
We have already talked about the differences between the language of men and the language of women. For all their differences, both can suffer because of a single word. Which one? One single inappropriate word at a decisive moment can ruin everything. The right word can save everything. The conversations in bed after sexual intercourse are just as important.
Never criticize your partner for something he exclaimed or did just now. Much less compare him with others. You shouldn’t talk about them at all, even if he knows he’s not the first. What a man fears most is hearing that he does not satisfy a woman as a sexual partner. He expects a woman’s admiration. After all, he has spent time and a lot of effort. In addition, a man always seeks praise. And if he hears words of rejection? Then his attraction may disappear. He does not forget the inappropriate everyday words at the most responsible moment. Anton Chekhov wrote about this. Remember his wife’s sacramental phrase: “Do not forget to send for linen tomorrow”? And not only in literature, but in life such gaffes are remembered for life as an affront to male dignity. One of my acquaintances couldn’t forgive his wife for years with phrases like, “I must remember to pick up my boots tomorrow. No big deal. If she didn’t say things like that in moments of intimacy. After all, they were divorced.
More affectionate words! Gentle touches! And then he will always want to be there for you. After all, a man is a big baby. He may not have had enough motherly caresses as a child. If his mother was kind to him, he misses her warmth now that he is an adult. If you can’t find good words, think at your leisure, is this the right person for you?
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