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You have to understand what it means to be educated. It means to have knowledge and to be able to acquire new knowledge, because whoever does not go forward is not just standing still, but catastrophically lagging behind. The ancient Greeks said of true education, “One must know a little of everything and a little of everything. Their wisdom is still valid today, for one cannot be a narrow specialist, and at the same time a superficial “polymath” who has picked up sketchy information about everything is no good in serious situations where professionalism is really needed.
Why we are not understood
You have to constantly remember that you live and work among people. You have to be smart, not mean, not blind, and know how to behave. You have to be able to speak clearly, to be understood both in form and in content. Talking to different people, both very young and elderly, not very serious and respectable, I noticed two main shortcomings in some of them.
Speech problems
Imprecise diction, poor articulation is especially characteristic of today’s youth. Often guys do not even strain, do not give themselves the trouble to pronounce the words clearly. The impression from the outside is that of something very untidy, unkempt. This impression imperceptibly extends to the perception of the person as a whole.
In this case we leave aside youth slang and swear words. It is useless to say anything against the former, because it is one of the elements that unites people in their group, and the latter should not be in your speech at all.
Thought Formulation
The second disadvantage is the vague presentation of thought. Sometimes it is amazing how difficult it is to understand what a person is talking about. And I had to deal with such things during conversations with people who had higher education. You are literally trying to penetrate to the true meaning, though the person is quite frank and does not “besmirch the plot”. It seems to him that everything is clear. He knows what is what. And it must be clear to others.
This is a common mistake. We always perceive people not as those who know less than we do, but as those who know the same as we do. That’s why it seems like half-assing things “everybody knows” is enough. Always remember that the person you are talking to has his own interests and his own knowledge. Sometimes he may not know something of yours. But he knows his own, perhaps equally important and interesting.
How to correct deficiencies
A girl, a woman, should make only a pleasant impression. And she should speak well. Don’t ramble – it’s annoying, especially for men. Fast word pronunciation, especially “through your teeth,” prevents many people from listening. Then, do you know how to open your mouth properly? You have to make sure that your mouth doesn’t stretch sideways, but opens vertically. You don’t have to overstep the boundaries of naturalness. Practice in front of the mirror, then it will become a habit. With this position of the mouth, the sounds will be collected. And lips stretched out to the sides make speech sound vulgar.
Speech becomes slurred and unintelligible even when the upper lip is still. When speaking, lift your upper lip slightly so that the tips of the upper front teeth are visible. The words will become clearer. But even the lower fixed lip can ruin the case, especially when pronouncing consonants – whistles and hisses.
Don’t rush and “swallow” syllables. Pay attention and make sure that the final consonant is not lost. Sometimes it is due to the inability to control your breath. If you like to sing, then the breath will gradually become adjustable. You just have to watch how you speak. You can ask someone to listen or use a tape recorder. Don’t be embarrassed by the fact that the timbre of your voice will be a little different when you record. We hear ourselves a little bit differently.
Ask me your questions in comments and I’ll answer you! Also watch the very helpful video below.
