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You know what athletes say: It’s easier to become a champion than to keep that title. So it is with love. It’s hard to keep it. Especially when it’s first love, first relationship with a romantic bent. Not only is there plenty of unpleasantness in life that can deal it blows, but the feeling itself has the ability to fade quickly. Many are therefore convinced that there can be no long love, and they stop loving. They are mistaken. There are quite a few examples of long-lasting unions. It’s not just in a fairy tale: “They lived happily ever after and died on the same day.” It’s just that for everlasting Love, “the soul has to work.” And also the mind and the hands and everything else.
There is a fairly common misconception that you can only love once in your life and, most likely, in early adolescence. Not necessarily at all. It happens that love comes to a person in the second half of his life, and he understands: this is the feeling, the present … There is no reason to consider youth a period of the highest boiling point of passions. In general, it is impossible to single out any “special” period of life in this respect. Remember, as Pushkin in “Eugene Onegin” “All ages are submissive to love …” And most people love not just once, but several times.
First Love
However, for you now, such considerations are of an abstract nature. Youth is “in a hurry to live, and in a hurry to feel. Rather, it is more likely to plunge into the adult world, where everything is real, not pretend! It is between childhood and adulthood that First Love appears. It can be a beautiful feeling, or it can be replaced by some “bedtime” story.
First love always leaves a deep trace in a person’s soul. The fragile soulfulness of youth (even in our sordid times, when children very quickly become smarter than many adults) can be tainted by the dissatisfaction that sex without love rewards. “How, and that’s it? And this is called love?” After such “experiences” and questions, one is disillusioned with the possibility of other feelings and experiences. In another case, the failure of rejection is hard. Sometimes they begin to take revenge on others. And it turns out, first of all, to themselves.
First of all, this applies to men (the female psyche, though we cry more, withstands stress better). “If, however, that first time, when he wanted to trust unconditionally, he was pushed away and betrayed, the wound will never fully heal, and moral health, having been shaken, will not recover for a long time,” writes Morua. Subsequently, a man can become a sullen, perpetually dissatisfied husband. Or donzhuana his brutality makes all of the subjugated women to pay for the offense that he inflicted the first. Or all his life he will search and not find that romantic image, which the First Love should have given him. So, my girl, you are responsible not only for yourself, but also for “that guy.
How do you find love?
Love is a whole gamut of experiences. And it is not always radiant happiness. But you can’t hide from it. You can’t wait and languish forever. Dull inactivity is terrible. It is necessary to be in public, talk to them, flirt. In moderation. Otherwise there could be a danger of “mixed roles”. And young people will think that the girl should be the first to discover her sympathies. Ask her out, for example. No, you can only “create the prerequisites”, but do not deprive him, your chosen one, of an active role. It’s up to you to make him like you. And do not let him go. And there – let him do what he knows (and what you let him do).
Gifts for the guy: is it really necessary?
Small gifts are also indispensable in the development of relationships. A wise woman once taught me this. Don’t expect to be the only one who has to give. Men are eternal children. Don’t children love surprises? Leather purses, handkerchiefs, pens and other little things that will always be on hand are recommended as gifts. He will take such a thing in his hands, and in the memory – a fond memory… Until the time when the gift will be given, it should lie in your closet among your things. Or for you to hold it in your hands for a while. These few minutes or days will be enough for the object to absorb for a long time the aura of a woman’s body or dwelling. It, the aura, will then influence the one who will receive the gift. This is what modern sorcerers teach. This has always been the way, which is captured in the famous, “Keep me, my talisman”.
Hand over a thing with the words: “Now I will always be with you. I will always help you, I will always protect you from any misfortune, from any misfortune”. Thus you carry out a session of psychotherapy, instilling belief that the small gift becomes a “talisman”, that it really will help. And it really helps, since it turns into an object of auto-training. In a difficult moment, a person will remember the love that is inherent in it, the talisman, and love will help him or her.
How should you NOT build a relationship?
Your boyfriend must be sure of your love. And you don’t have to rush to prove it through bed. The secret to many failures: relationships start where they should have ended. Take your time. There is a special beauty of uncertainty and waiting. The path you are destined (or not destined depends more on your wisdom) to take together. It’s not enough to just love. You have to know how to express your feelings. Signs of attention aren’t just small gifts. It’s also words, gestures, facial expressions, happy and kind smiles. So it was not like this: “Well, why are you all silent and silent? I kiss you, caress you, and you’re like a stone! The looks, and even more importantly the currents coming from you and turned to him, should contain both feeling, and sensuality, and affection, and kindness. Your inner light will warm his heart. Not to respond to it? Almost impossible.
You love him. And how is he? There are some signs of behavior from which you can draw conclusions. If, for example, you get up the courage to talk to him, and he doesn’t pay any attention to you… If after a few minutes of talking to you, he gets nervous and find reasons to hurry to leave… If he tells you that you’re actually a great girl, but… …and asks me to introduce you to a friend… If he tells you that he made up with his old girlfriend and they are “okay,” you have to understand that your chances are slim. What to do in such a case? Read in the following articles.
If you need help or advice – write in comments. I will always be there waiting for you.
