The main rules of how to choose a birthday gift and what not to give

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You have probably already understood that there is a secret, incomprehensible “feminine” knowledge. It seems inscrutable to men and to those women who cannot or do not want to master it. And in it has always been the ability to make this world a little more beautiful. How to clean up a mess, you can guess. About how to be beautiful with your own face and clothes, too. But in both makeup and outfits, the final touch that brings life and joy to the eye is always important. In the first case, it is a properly chosen lipstick, in the second – accessories, often jewelry. Let’s consider how to choose a birthday gift.

Why gifts are needed

The famous contemporary actor Mikhail Derzhavin once said: “Joy should be created exclusively by yourself.

Indeed, if you don’t make yourself happy, no one will make you happy. Besides, no one is obliged to do it. And life is what you perceive it to be.

I wanted to say that it would be good if you gave joy yourself. And you would have a better life, and people would like you more. No matter how hard life is, young people are not discouraged. I see that both my acquaintances and my students – those who are studying now and whom I meet a few years after my graduation – have very different attitudes than other adults, who only curse the world, prophesy the imminent doom of the world, and sigh for the old times. It is disappointing to hear this from men who cannot and do not want to remake themselves. What seems impossible to them turns out to be easy and simple for today’s youth, ready to achieve their goals, to work and enjoy life.

One of these joys has always been gifts. They are a pleasure to receive, a pleasure to make. A friend of mine, an adult aunt, makes gifts for all the right people. That’s her calculation. Maybe she’s right. At any rate, her character and knowledge of life help her solve many problems. But while you’re young, I’d like you to enjoy giving gifts to people you like.

The main rules of how to choose a birthday gift and what not to give 

Why Wrapping Matters

It’s so much fun to make gifts! Especially when you are young, when imagination and play are allowed. Adults can be boring and not accept it. I remember how I wanted to design a general gift for the men of our department. It was a radio. When an elderly lady saw my materials and knew my intentions, she squealed, “What a childhood!” – and then spent a long time telling everyone what an “imbecile” and “idiot” I was. It is understandable, in the fight against a younger rival in the course of everything is used.

“Well,” I said, “you want to congratulate yourself. Madame did just that: plopped the gift right in its gray cardboard torn package on the table and said to the smiling men, “You kept asking that we have a radio in the department, so here’s one for you!” The smiles slid off their faces. Everyone was clearly uncomfortable. A holiday? Or a spoiled mood? That’s the kind of presentation that can ruin anything.

What gifts are better not to present

There are times when a gift can offend. For example, to give something with a malicious hint. Or just shove an unnecessary thing. Somewhere in my bookcases are two books given by my friends on the occasion of one of the most important events in my life. They collected money and instructed one of the girls to buy a gift.

She, without thinking twice, went down to the store of foreign literature and bought two very expensive books in Czech: one on some geographical area, the other on cooking. Both books are beautifully published. But after all, I don’t know Czech. It’s just my girlfriend, who keeps what I cooked for her behind glass in the sideboard and shows everyone: “This is when I turned 18 years old, and this is when I turned 20…” has served its turn…

But I have another little gift. This is a handkerchief embroidered by another friend of ours, with tiny flowers. I do not wipe my nose with it. I just take it out sometimes, look at it, and remember our college days.

The main rules of how to choose a birthday gift and what not to give

And on the shelf there is a hand-carved wooden pot, like an antique. Its bottom is covered in paintings by fellow students. My birthday happened to coincide with our trip to Leningrad (at that time it was not expected that the city would revert to its former name). I told no one, but it turned out that the guys remembered. And when one day I was admiring a rook displayed in the window of an art salon, they noticed. In the evening at the holiday table I was solemnly handed the thing. Since then it has stood in a prominent place.

A gift must be chosen. It’s good when you know what the person likes, what he would like to get. I, for example, try to listen carefully and remember what you say, what others say. Sometimes it is this attentiveness that manages to please. They say that the best gift for a man is a bottle and for a woman – flowers. But you yourself probably like “lasting” gifts.

Ask your questions in comments and I will answer you! Also, watch a helpful video on the topic below.

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Автор Елизавета Татарчук

Эксперт женского мышления. Училась в РГУ им. С. А. Есенина на факультете психологии. Хочу открыть свой бесплатный кабинет психологической поддержки.

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